It all started back in Febuary of this year when I started herbal supplementing, temping and charting CM and CP. I really wanted to "take charge of my fertility" and since we aren't lucky like all of those hetero's out there and able to do it the fun way, I aimed to maximize our chances (and limit Ros's exposure of having to shoot semen into me). The Essential Guide is a must for anyone TTC. I started taking prenatals, vitex, omega-3's, evening primrose oil, B-6, eating mostly organic, and drinking fertility tea daily.
After 2 months of trying with a dear KD, we realized that he probably wasn't going to be the best option for us. It's funny because I started considering using donor sperm one night while at work and when I saw Ros the next day she had a spread sheet of all the sperm banks, prices, and options. It's like I sent her a brain wave that night and she was on it. We have a weird connection like that, it's bizarre sometimes and a little freaky.
We decided to go with a smaller bank in the midwest versus the 2 large banks that are local. Even though we had less options, like only anonymous donors and no baby pictures to look at, it was the best option for us. The prices were right which would allow us to do 2 inseminations per month, and honestly too many options and choices overwhelm us.
Our first month of TTC with donor sperm, my body decided it wouldn't cooperate and I didn't ovulate when I should have. I was like clockwork every other month, but of course with $500 riding on my ovaries, it was just too much pressure for them and I ended up ovulating 10 days late, blowing that month. This led me to panic that something was wrong with me and wondered if I could possibly have PCOS. Luckily one trip to the ob/gyn later, my fears were quelled and he told us that if we weren't successful within the next couple of months we could try clomid.
Luckily we never had to go there. Our second month of trying we weren't able to use our chosen bank as the lady who runs the place had a wrestling chamionship thingy to attend with her husband in Europe somewhere. Of course this was scheduled during my ovulation. We should have taken the month off, but we decided to check out another bank in the northwest. We found a donor we "liked" although we weren't as thrilled with him as our other donors. I just kept thinking that I hoped I didn't get pregnant because I didn't want to use this bank for siblings. Well low and behold a BFN. I was only slightly disappointed.
For our third and successful try, I feel like things just barely lined up in our favor. Our bank was able to give us our first choice donor (which is very difficult). We almost didn't get our shipment on time as I ovulated 2 days early and the FedEx truck almost didn't make the delivery on time. I remember sitting home checking the tracking obsessively. Around 2:45 (was supposed to be delivered by 3) I started getting nervous. Ros checked the tracking and it said something like, recipient not available for delivery. Thank god for Ros because she was on the phone with the FedEx headquarters in like 2 seconds flat, even going to the nearest FedEx shipping facility in her scrubs demanding that her patient receives their necessary medical equipment that day. Needless to say Ros gets things done and by 3:45, we had our cryotank. Maybe the extra time we waited made the difference, who knows??? Or maybe it was the pep talk we gave to each of the 2 vials before inseminating.
Needless to say, here we are almost 10 weeks into our pregnancy. My fatigue is lessening and my afternoon nausea is almost non-existent. I'm lucky that I never puked, only came close twice thanks to some eggplant and a verped up omega-3. My boobs are still sore which gives me comfort that not all my symptoms have gone away. Now we can hope that my cravings for fast food will subside and my aversions of cooked veggies will disappear.
Through all of this I would have to say that our journey was a very enjoyable one. Everything worked out just the way we hoped it would and we were able to create our little miracle at home with just the two of us :)
Now let's hope that everything stays where it's supposed to and grows into a beautiful, healthy little baby.